It’s up to you.

No one else to blame.

We often find ways to sabotage our own success.

We are afraid of it.

We find ways to procrastinate, thinking that we will do it later, when we know we won’t.  You are cutting your legs out from underneath you.

We shrink back, thinking our ideas aren’t that great or have been talked about before by someone else that is smarter and more well-known than us.

We wonder, why the hell would people listen to me anyway.  What do I really have to offer?


Let me tell you what you are.


One of a kind.

You have more to offer this world than you know.

You may impact millions someday.  You may not.

What you do have is a group or friends, family, co-workers, acquaintances, connections or strangers around you right now.  They are constantly seeking motivation, inspiration, a pick me up, high five, pat on the back or kick in the ass.

If you sabotage yourself; procrastinating, shrinking, hiding, you are robbing the world of something no one else can offer.

I often am reluctant to share stories, because of what people will think.  This is a thing I’m working on.  I procrastinate blog posts and videos, because I’m not sure if anyone is going to listen.  But, really, I’m being selfish.  The point is, if anything I have to say helps 1 person, then it was worth it!  If you lose weight, get motivated, win a starting position, get a scholarship, get stronger because of something I did, that is amazing!  I’m going to stop focusing on trying to influence millions and start focusing on influencing one.

Recently, I have been working on influencing one of the most important people in my life through a painful experience I had.

When I was in my late teens, early twenties, I suffered 2 MAJOR panic attacks.  Like, to the ER because I thought my heart was going to explode attacks.

It was awful.  It was lonely, embarrassing, painful, saddening and now, tremendously helpful.  You see that experience taught me how to deal with difficult times, control my breathe to reduce the physiological effects of anxiety, and how to ask for help when I need it.

Fast forward 20 years, my 11 year old, has been wrestling with some anxiety.  His episodes happen at night and causes him to not get restful sleep, which is terrible.

Even though I am not an expert or the foremost leader in panic/ anxiety, I have an experience that shaped me and he trusts me.  This combination (along with Tons of help from Momma) gives me a unique opportunity to influence him, provide comfort and help him get through this time.

I had a crappy experience, but now it is a valuable piece of my life that can help others.

You have the same thing.  I don’t know what it is and it might be really painful, but I believe that pain can become a comfort for others if you’ll let it.

If you are willing, you can be a person of influence and impact more people than you will ever know.  By focusing on influencing one person, rather than on trying to influence a million, you can create ripples that go out further than you will ever know.

Use your unique experiences for good.

You may have a unique skill or talent that can help others.

You may have an experience from the past that will provide comfort or peace to some.

Whatever it is, here’s the Challenge.  Stop Sabotaging Yourself.

Get done the things you want to accomplish.  Go where you need to .  Influence People.  Blog, video, photograph, hug, do whatever it is that you are supposed to do.

It starts with creating a daily routine.

Getting uncomfortable.

Staying Focused.

Being accountable to your goals.

Doing it everyday.

If you do this, your life will not be boring.  You will find what you are looking for when you truly seek it, and you will be fulfilled.

But, no one else can do this.  It’s you and you alone.

Do you want it?

Go Get It!