Jocko Willink is my favorite.

He was the Commander of Seal Team 3: Task Unit Bruiser in Ramadi, Iraq.

The city was torn apart by the war and it was the epicenter of urban fighting.

He needed to work with multiple teams across different branches of the military to bring order to the region.

He talks about one of his “favorite failures”, or things that helped him grow in the book Tribe of Mentors.

One day early on, his seal team and a group of Iraqi soldiers that we helping the US Military.

This was a disaster.

These Iraqi’s were supposed to be helping Jocko’s team and instead, they suffered 1 casualty, and 2 wounded soldiers.

After the dusk settled on the fight, he had to figure out what happened and why.

“While there was plenty of blame to go around, and plenty of people who had made mistakes, I realized that there was only one person to blame: ME.  I was the commander….I was responsible for everything that happened. EVERYTHING.”

This mistake lead to a series of changes that provided clearer communication and lead to a decentralized command scenario that helped turn the tide of war in this city.

If you want to know more about the story, read Extreme Ownership by Jocko Willink.  (I HIGHLY recommend it)

Here is what hit me this morning.

My life is 100% my responsibility.

How I act.

How I respond.

How I live.

All up to me.

There are always situations that arise that might be out of your control, but the truth is, if you want to succeed, at anything, then you need to take full ownership of your life.

Want to lose weight.

Do it.

If you don’t achieve your goal though, it’s YOUR fault.

Not your spouses.

Not your mom’s.

Not your coworker who brings insane amounts of christmas cookies to work to share.

It’s yours.

I don’t say this to shame you.

But to let you know, everything is up to you.

When you account for everything in your life.

Your alarm clock.

Morning Routine.




Work/ Career.


You find that you have more power than you think.

The things your don’t get done, aren’t because you don’t have more time, it’s because you don’t spend it well.

You likely aren’t in financial trouble because of one thing.

You haven’t owned your responsibility and saved, give and spent.

Your inability to hit a weight loss goal is probably more about the fact you aren’t willing to prepare your food and get to the gym.

You have to take control of everything.

This mindset allows you to be prepared, learn and grow from everything.

If you do, you will see that the stuff that sucks your time and keeps your from reaching your best, will go away because it’s not a priority.

Prioritize the important.

Know Your Purpose.

Set your behaviors accordingly.

Take Action daily.

Revise actions steps if necessary.

Keep Moving forward.

Oh, and buy the book Tribe of Mentors.

If you want to read about how some very successful people live and work, read it.

Tribe of Mentors is a book written by Tim Ferriss, that I have been working through over the last week or so.

It’s not your traditional book.

It’s actually, mostly adapted content from Tim’s podcast or blog.

He asks people he admires roughly 11 questions.

Then he wrote them in this book as reference for how “successful people” live and work.